Stand By Your Manhood by Peter Lloyd is a rare book. It’s rare because it tackles head on some of the key issues facing men today. But he manages to do it with a smile, a wink and a freshly opened can of lager.
Peter Lloyd, who also goes by the name ‘Suffragentleman’ is a journalist, columnist and author. His book Stand by Your Manhood: A Game Changer for Modern Men is right up my street. Here’s why:
1. It speaks honestly and openly about real issues affecting men
I recently watched The Red Pill movie, a documentary into the men’s rights movement by actress and filmmaker Cassie Jaye. What is striking about the film is that Jaye set off intending to expose the Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) as horrid, women hating animals. What she actually discovered was something very different – I don’t want to spoil the story but it’s worth watching.
The truth is that men are affected by a range of issues that gain almost no coverage anywhere in the mainstream media. Even the recent ‘RUOK’ campaign for preventing suicide referred to ‘people’, when the statistics show that it’s an overwhelmingly male problem.
Peter Lloyd says:
More than ten men a day kill themselves in England and Wales; it’s by far the biggest cause of death for young men in the UK.
If you become a father to twins – one girl, one boy – current data proves that your son will die younger, leave school with fewer qualifications and be less eligible for work than your daughter.
So much for this ‘male privilege’ we keep getting smacked about the face with by the governments and the media.
Even when statistics are published showing the disadvantes boys are facing in academia, this is drowned out by the dominant voices in our culture proclaiming how much progress there’s been.
In reality we just switched one inequality for another.
And so I’m grateful to Peter Lloyd, and others like him, for highlighting these and many other issues in his book.
2. The author is hated by feminist harpies everywhere
You’ve probably heard of Peter Lloyd. He’s the guy who sued his gym for having ‘women only’ sessions. And won.
OK, so he didn’t really win the case. But the coverage his case recieved was moral victory enough and highlighted a staggering bias – what Lloyd would call ‘Everyday BS’.
The case drew out the most laughable reactions from the feminist harpy mouthpieces of man hating content farm, Jezebel and SJW hotbed known as the Independent newspaper. No doubt the Guardian got their oar in too but I was too busy laughing at the Jezebel piece to search for it.
For this, and this excellent book which provides a rebuttal to the deepest 3rd wave feminist lies, the Feminist Establishment loathe him.
3. It has ‘Trashing’ reviews on Amazon
How do you get that most coveted of thing – the ‘I hate this book, man and the whole world’ review on Amazon? Nothing on this planet is more likely to make me want to buy a book than if a dozen or so feminists took the time to trash it and it’s author on Amazon.
Here’s an excerpt from one of my favourite ‘1 star-ers’:
It doesn’t analyse or query any ideas of maleness, it just lazily repeats the kind of stuff that you hear over and over again on MRA forums.
Sure sweetie, cos that’s what men want to read – books that query our maleness.
I’ve even considered harnessing this phenomenon to shift more copies of ‘A Father’s Mission’. Though it’s probably unethical for me to pay my feminist friends to rubbish it in front of their peers.
Standing Against the Dad-Bashing Tide
Fathers get a hard time. as Lloyd says about the imbalance in fathers being granted custody:
Men are equally innately hard-wired to care for children. The only difference is that the rest of the world think they’re dangerous, uninterested and lacking skills which mothers are born with.
Look at the way fathers are portrayed in the media, on TV or even in popular language.
My only misgiving about the men’s rights movement in general is that it strays into ‘Men are victims too’ territory.
The victim mindset is all pervasive in our time but it isn’t a feature of male identity – to see yourself as perpetually oppressed. Life can’t consist of kneeling at football games or protesting that person who you don’t agree with.
Sure, let the people with time and money to burn do that on your behalf. But is it good ROI? Does all that drama fit with your mission as a man and a father?
So what’s the answer?
What ever happened to valuing strength, self control, power and prowess – all of those being masculine characteristics. If we want to understand and rediscover male identity, we need to start with those fundamental aspects of our psyche and character.
When it comes to men’s issues and father’s rights, we gotta look out for each other. No one else is going to do it for us. There isn’t a magical higher political power that cares about whether men are more likely to die young or whether our sons are more likely to be high school dropouts than our daughters.