Are we seeing the final curtain for feminine women? That’s a question I’ve been asking myself (and others) over the past few weeks. And I’m not sure I like the answer.
Right now feminine women seem to be under attack from multiple angles. Whether it’s through the media, culture or our education systems, time is running out for girly-girls.
Final Curtain for Feminine Women
You can tell a lot about a society by what it places value in. And feminine women are definitely out.
The 2001 film Legally Blonde went full frontal attack and established the cliche of the ‘Bimbo’ in everyone’s mind. Since we’ve been conditioned to see the feminine as something to be feared.
Or at least regretted.
Later came the movie ‘Mean Girls’ which again established and taught us that all pretty girls who care about their appearance are, sadly, the epitome of pure evil.
The best you can do is steer clear of them/play cruel jokes on them like feeding them weight gainer bars until they don’t fit in their prom dress.
You’ve probably figured out that I’ve got traditional views on femininity. Let me lay it out for you before we go any further: I believe that a feminine upbringing is the ultimate fulfillment for women and girls.
In modern western culture, femininity is under attack. It’s now seen as being gauche or ‘basic’ to be a girly-girl.
Women and girls who dress and behave in a feminine way can expect to be ridiculed by their peers. If they take care of their bodies by eating healthily and doing exercise, there’s a target on their backs.
How many women now suffer in silence in the current cultural climate – where their desire to express their femininity meets a wall of resistance and ridicule.
How many are forced to suppress their feminine traits of elegance, delicacy, tact and motherhood to keep up with a 60 hour work week, drinking with the ‘lads’ or just staying off a rabid feminist’s radar.
In the media that we consume on a daily basis, the blonde pretty girl is a dumb statue devoid of personality and guile where as booky, genderless girls are the true heroines.
Fathers are Killing Femininity
You think you’re not to blame for this crisis that women are facing? Because you probably are. You’ve been sitting, soaking in your own little world while girly-girls were at war – and you did nothing. Until now.
How can I possibly say there is a war on femininity? Am I living in some kind of parallel, conspiracy filled universe? Or am I the one seeing the world free from the filtered perspective of mainstream media and thought.
If you think I’ve dreamed up this conflict from my imagination, watch for the hate I’ll inevitably get for even considering such a dangerous idea as valuing femininity.
We live in a time when women who shake off the physical attributes of their birth gender through artificial chemical hormonal assistance and surgical procedures are lauded as paragons of virtue and strength.
And a man can win ‘Woman of the Year’.
Women who dress in woolen hats representing genitals and call themselves ‘sluts’ are activists affecting political change.
Modern Dads seek to propagate this attack on femininity by dressing their daughters up in boys clothes and giving them ‘gender neutral’ upbringings. Some are so proud of their achievements they blog about it.
The war on boys and masculinity is already lost. The war on girls is our fall back position.
Women are under attack – there’s no question about it.
Femininity and the Father’s Mission
The attack on femininity is another nail in the coffin of the traditional family unit. 3rd wave feminism and progressive’ has been chipping away at family values for years. A few of us have begun to wake up.
Men were an easy target. We were already addicted to junk food and porn – for many it was too late. But for this newer, more subtle attack on women, we have the opportunity to resist.
We can teach our girls that a desire to settle down, build a home and have children is no less valid than climbing the career ladder.
We can tell our daughters and our wives that they look beautiful and encourage them to develop their feminine traits.
We can encourage the women in our lives to aspire to physical health, beauty and attractive dress.
We can take pride in ourselves as men with powerful stores of energy and strong identity – perfect compliments to a feminine woman or girl.
As a father, you have the opportunity to affect change for the next generation. Make it count.
P.S. This post was inspired by a chapter in my new book ‘The Pillars of Modern Fatherhood’. Sign up for updates and a free pre-release copy here.